Dear Anyone who’s not an autism parent but trying to understand autism parents,
You know those moments in life when you’re hurt that a mean kid was not so nice to your child? Or how horribly difficult the “terrible twos” were? How much you struggled to keep your shit together as you tried to control your possessed kid in public. How cruel people in public can be for giving you the bad parent/bad child glare? What about having to de-code wth your life insurance or retirement plans mean? Or worse, a store, party venue, restaurant or insurance company denying coverage, denying return of a bad item, dismissing bad customer service. Having to escalate it to management? Remember that bad year when your child that horrible terrible no good, very bad teacher?! Phew thank goodness that was just one school year. How sad you were when your youngest was delayed compared to all their friends when it came to sports? But now ecstatic you were when he finally got that ribbon from swimming to the next level, even though it took him longer than every other 5 year old?
Autism families go through similar pains everyday, every hour, every week throughout their lives. Not occasionally but everyday. The struggle is so very real. It’s exhausting, depressing, disappointing.