Autism Parenting. This Struggle is Real.

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Dear Anyone who’s not an autism parent but trying to understand autism parents,

You know those moments in life when you’re hurt that a mean kid was not so nice to your child?  Or how horribly difficult the “terrible twos” were?  How much you struggled to keep your shit together as you tried to control your possessed kid in public.  How cruel people in public can be for giving you the bad parent/bad child glare?  What about having to de-code wth your life insurance or retirement plans mean?  Or worse, a store, party venue, restaurant or insurance company denying coverage, denying return of a bad item, dismissing bad customer service.  Having to escalate it to management?  Remember that bad year when your child that horrible terrible no good, very bad teacher?!  Phew thank goodness that was just one school year.  How sad you were when your youngest was delayed compared to all their friends when it came to sports?  But now ecstatic you were when he finally got that ribbon from swimming to the next level, even though it took him longer than every other 5 year old?

Autism families go through similar pains everyday, every hour, every week throughout their lives.  Not occasionally but everyday.  The struggle is so very real.  It’s exhausting, depressing, disappointing.

 

I’m not being sarcastic nor belittling the issues, hardships, obstacles we all face as parents and human beings.  Special needs kids or not.  I’m simply trying to help non autism parents understand the intensity of the other side.

(Pic above I took the other day when we finally got some rain and thunder in Northern California.  I love the rain, the comfort it brings, the beauty, the calmness the sound of rain drops.  The road ahead is a long, dark, bright with many bumps and detours for many autism families.)

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Taking Care of Yourself First

I decided to make a separate tab where I show off how I indulge, create, take care of me.   After all, they do compare us Autism Moms to Men in Combat!!  There is that saying where it goes something like, You must take care of you before you can be there for your children.  Yes I get it but that doesn’t always happen.  However, when I do find things I love to do I indulge BIG TIME and get STUCK to gain some of that ESCAPE and THERAPY even if only for a short time, it’s better than no time.  Geez I sound like a drug addict but I’m more like a shop-aholic.  Enjoy!  I hope you get some get ideas on how to self indulge or teach me a few other ways to escape this autism reality.  I’ve added the most recent posts about these wonderful hobbies of mine but going forward (as I get lazier) just please look under “taking care of yourself first” category on the right hand side of the home page.

Whipped or wiped out?

My husband accidentally wiped my calendar out during syncing. The stress drove me to Starbucks for a Venti skinny cinnamon dolce latte…with…whip.

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Bare Essentials Birthday Gift

Got this free with my warmth purchase at bare essentials today since my birthday was last week.  Small things, especially when free,gives me the giggles!  Doesn’t take much to entertain me I guess.  I googled this and learned there are hundreds of reviews on Macy’s and Nordstroms.

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Alex and Ani Autism Puzzle Bracelet

TBT.  I had featured this on my IG for April AutismAwareness month in honor of my son.  Alex & Ani puzzle bracelet from Nordstrom.  So in love with this gorgeous piece.  I’m all about trendy, environment friendly, good cause and affordable designer brands. Thank you A&A for this awareness bracelet!

Yes I was rockin’ out blue gel nails on autism awareness month!

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Beautiful Autism Puzzle Piece Necklace

I love this puzzle pieces necklace from Princess P’s online store for $14.99!  I’ve been looking for a cute & trendy necklace like this for long time, so I’m ecstatic. I’ve searched and could never find one like this.  Most of the ones I saw were huge puzzle pieces or had imperfect shapes.  Thank you to Andrew’s school therapist, who was wearing this one day when I picked him up!

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Autism Moms Be Like…Drinks Anyone?

AUTISM MOMS

BE LIKE…
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DRINKS ANYONE?

I’m an Autism Mom. Hear me ROAR!!

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I’m an Autism Mom. Hear me ROAR!!

I’m gonna be down right honest. I am sad and my heart feels so heavy since last night after reading this article on autistic kids’ futures. What struck me most is reading other parents’ comments on how worried they are about their child’s future after they’re gone. This same exact worry along with fear of middle and high school days terrify me to no end! Today was my son’s last speech therapy with a wonderful therapist he’s had for 6 years. I’m feeling overwhelmed trying to find group social skills group and looking for another regulating activity for him as well. Plus I have work, party planning and ambitious valentine projects (which I enjoy because it’s a hobby) to complete in the next day or two. My husband lost his job and will work again in two weeks. My father in law’s cancer is slowly crawling back and fearful of the responsibility of aging sick parents. I’m on overload again after a long break and it sucks!!!!!!!!!